2. What can influence a woman to be a lesbian or bisexual?

You can’t say a word you’re not surely is. I mean, there is some les/bi that they don’t know they were les/bi. Some people are actually like that. Especially bisexual people. If you live in a girl world, I mean full of girls. Like for example, you’re studying in a exclusive school for girls only. You think, it would affect you to your environment? or your personality being a girl? Me myself, I really don’t know what the answer is. That’s why I’m having a research about this. But I think it still depends on people but I don’t know.

While researching, I read an article “Why are so many girls lesbian or bisexual?” by Leonard Sax. It says that, when a straight girl kisses a girl, and she finds that she likes it, then thing can happen and things can change. If a young woman finds her soul mate, and her soul mate happens to be a female, then she may begin to experience feeling she never felt before. Maybe some of girls experienced this kind of situation. And some girls, when they were still kids, they were having a crush on a girl until now so they were confused if they were lesbian or bisexual or something.

And I read some article “Am I a lesbian?” by  Kathy Belge. About questioning themselves if they were lesbian or not. Just want to share. I have encountered a straight girl. And when she transfer in a different school, with full of bisexuals, and make friends to them. Hangout with them everyday. Then one day, she suddenly falls in love with a girl. She don’t know why and she thinks that because all of her friends were bisexuals, she thinks that they influenced her. She’s with them for almost 4 years. So she’s doing what her friends do.

Every girls has their own experienced to be a les/bi. When they were a kids until now. Every girl has a questions about themselves. And I think no one choose to be like this. I guess they were chosen? They just suddenly feel it. Not intentionally. Even some girls don’t want to be les/bi. Some of them stop of what they feel but they can’t. I mean, how force yourself to stop liking same sex, it can’t.

“You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender – people are people. Lesbian love, gay love, straight love, big age difference love, old love and young love, it’s all the same. Love is love.”


Let them. You’re not them. Just respect them because they were still people. They’re not harmful. Just leave them alone, with their happy life. If that what makes them happy, why not? Again. It’s their life not yours. So shut the fuck up. You don’t know everything. So let them come out.