2. Bisexuality and relationships.

If they are attracted to both sexes, would they be more likely have an affair?

In a world with full of questions, you really don't know what the truths and lies is. We know in ourselves that there's a question that has never been answered yet. And I know some people are questioning this too. So, I did a research about it. Well, some people have their own opinions about this. They have their own explanation based on their experience. And people have their own definition about bisexuality and their relationships.

While researching, I came across "Different bisexuality and relationships" Iby Jennifer Moore". She discussed about what kind of bisexual you are and what kind of relationship you were having. If they be more likely to have an affair or something. There are some definitions about bisexuality and relationships:

Monogamy - For a bi person in a monogamous (one partner) relationship, calling themselves bisexual says something about their potential to be with either a woman or a man. It doesn't mean they need both right now.It may mean that supposing they split up with their current partner, they could imagine being with either a woman or a man next.

Non-monogamy - Some bi people are in non-monogamous relationships. Even then, it doesn't necessarily mean that they choose to be with one man and one woman. They may be with two men, or two women, or some other combination. They may be non-monogamous for reasons unconnected with bisexuality.

Celibacy - Just because you have the potential to be with women or men, doesn't mean you necessarily want to be with either.

Currently single - Like anyone, bi people may be "waiting for the right person to come along".

More on non-monogamy - Not all non-monogamous relationships involve bisexuality or even homosexuality. Example one woman may have two male partners who are not sexual with each other. But non-monogamy is associated with bisexuality in many people's minds, so it's a subject that tends to come up in bi-education. Also, bisexuality and non-monogamy have a stereotype in common: that someone is indiscriminate about their sexual choices.

I have read a letter on the internet about a bisexual that her bisexual girlfriend ended up a relationship with men. It's a "Can I trust a bisexual woman?" by Benjamin Caplan who answered the question of a bisexual girl. It depends on people how they treat themselves as a bisexual. How they understands what bisexual is. But I think it's up to a person how they can manage this kind of relationships and situation. But for some, they were just saying that they were bisexual but not and they were using a real bisexual female for personal satisfaction. 

But for majority I guess. Bisexual female were serious with what they were having or for what they were experiencing right now. I mean, in the bisexual thing, being with the woman is a serious thing. And being a bisexual. 

2. What can influence a woman to be a lesbian or bisexual?

You can’t say a word you’re not surely is. I mean, there is some les/bi that they don’t know they were les/bi. Some people are actually like that. Especially bisexual people. If you live in a girl world, I mean full of girls. Like for example, you’re studying in a exclusive school for girls only. You think, it would affect you to your environment? or your personality being a girl? Me myself, I really don’t know what the answer is. That’s why I’m having a research about this. But I think it still depends on people but I don’t know.

While researching, I read an article “Why are so many girls lesbian or bisexual?” by Leonard Sax. It says that, when a straight girl kisses a girl, and she finds that she likes it, then thing can happen and things can change. If a young woman finds her soul mate, and her soul mate happens to be a female, then she may begin to experience feeling she never felt before. Maybe some of girls experienced this kind of situation. And some girls, when they were still kids, they were having a crush on a girl until now so they were confused if they were lesbian or bisexual or something.

And I read some article “Am I a lesbian?” by  Kathy Belge. About questioning themselves if they were lesbian or not. Just want to share. I have encountered a straight girl. And when she transfer in a different school, with full of bisexuals, and make friends to them. Hangout with them everyday. Then one day, she suddenly falls in love with a girl. She don’t know why and she thinks that because all of her friends were bisexuals, she thinks that they influenced her. She’s with them for almost 4 years. So she’s doing what her friends do.

Every girls has their own experienced to be a les/bi. When they were a kids until now. Every girl has a questions about themselves. And I think no one choose to be like this. I guess they were chosen? They just suddenly feel it. Not intentionally. Even some girls don’t want to be les/bi. Some of them stop of what they feel but they can’t. I mean, how force yourself to stop liking same sex, it can’t.

“You know, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender – people are people. Lesbian love, gay love, straight love, big age difference love, old love and young love, it’s all the same. Love is love.”


Let them. You’re not them. Just respect them because they were still people. They’re not harmful. Just leave them alone, with their happy life. If that what makes them happy, why not? Again. It’s their life not yours. So shut the fuck up. You don’t know everything. So let them come out.

1. Introduction

What is lesbian and bisexual?


Lesbianism, in the most simplified form, is the homosexuality of women. A female person is called a lesbian when she expresses her sexual and romantic desires toward another female. By the laws of nature all the living creatures are born with the inborn instinct to mate with opposite sex. A lesbian is a girl or a woman who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to the same sex, namely to other girls or women. A lesbian is sometimes called a gay woman, or a homosexual woman, but the word lesbian is usually preferred.

On the other hand, bisexuality is the potential to be physically, emotionally and/or sexually attracted to both men and women including transgender people. Many people engage in sexual activity with people of both genders, yet do not call themselves bisexual. Sexual identity is a personal thing. People may call themselves straight, gay,  lesbian,  bisexual or just plain sexual and have a sexual preference for both women and men. A person may identify as bisexual because of the feelings they have both genders but engage in sexual activity or have a relationship with people of only one or remain celibate.

There were too many les or bi not coming out. They never tell or show who really they are because some of them were afraid of people judgmental. They hate talking about them especially negative issues. But for les/bi doesn't care of people around them, talking about them or hearing rumors. It’s good. At least, you show them your true personality. They show what they really are. Cause people get tired talking and talking about them if they can’t see in your face that you’re affected. And they will stop.